Health & Wellbeing

Are you holding onto items that reflect your wannabe you?

March 6, 2017

At the moment I’m into de-cluttering and minimalism. As you know, I did the Marie Kondo method last year. Basically her method is that you hold onto things that bring you joy, and get rid of everything else. We threw out heaps of shit! It was amazing. I let go of a lot of stuff, boxes of memories, clothing and photographs. My memories are now in a teeny box with some special items like books that I want to give to my niece and nephew when they get older. I can now see all the clothes in my wardrobe rather than having summer and winter items everywhere. (And in 12 months I’m pleased to say that I haven’t looked for anything I have thrown out.)

This year, I decided to take it up a notch. We really want to travel more, to make more space, to fill our apartment with light and art so we can have more avenues to do the things we love like cooking, photography and writing. So I’ve signed up to Joshua Becker’s uncluttered course. Over 12 weeks we are going through the rooms in our house one by one and de cluttering.

One of the concepts that I’ve loved about the course, is that I have learnt that we tend to hang onto things that reflect our “wannabe selves”, rather than cherishing who we are and owning things that reflect what phase we are in our lives right now. Let’s now face where my life is at these days. I don’t go out anymore, except to the pub for a low-key night. I don’t go out to fancy parties. (If I do I have one or two dresses that I love.) I spend my time training, yoga-ing, walking and writing. My holidays are the active kind, freediving, hiking or adventuring rather than sit-in-a-bar-all-glammed-up. Yet I have found myself buying things recently that reflect this ‘wannabe me” that I actually am not. Here are some things that I have found in my sorting!

Exhibit A – Crystal Cuff

= Person that goes to fancy events

What the fuck possessed me to buy this Crystal Cuff I have no idea. It cost $100. Never worn it. Ever. When would I wear this and why? Whhyyyyyyyyyy? Wheeerreeee? It’s even too much bling for a wedding. Maybe a black tie. But when have I been to a black tie wedding? Never, said I. 

Exhibit B – Fishing Gear

= Person that goes sunset fishing

Now I do enjoy a fish every now and then (on holidays) and I am not half bad at it either. When I moved by the beach I thought The Ginger Hunk and I would spend our sunsets walking along the beach and fishing. Nope. This has been gathering dust since 2014.

Exhibit C – Linen Kaftan

= Person that wears Kaftans around resorts

Now I like to think that I could become a person who swans around like the lady above in resort wear. Not a bead of sweat in sight, and flouncing around in fashion wear in crystal clear water. But no. I’m not that sort of traveller. This is what I really look on holidays. I’m in sports gear, hiking, freediving or doing yoga. Mostly always covered in sweat. Mostly wearing cheap items of clothing that I’m more than happy to leave to the peril of the Thai or Balinese laundromats.

So, now I’m getting rid of things that I am holding onto for my  ‘wannabe self’  so my items can reflect who I really am, right now. 

Do you hang onto ridiculous stuff as well that you never use? 

Tell me all the silly things! 

Much Love,

Ashleigh XXXX

Linking with Kylie for IBOT


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  • LOL I loved reading about your “wannabe self”. Mine is probably the gym clothes hahahah.

  • Hugzilla

    OMG hahha we must be reading each others minds because I have a post about minimalism and what it says about me on the go too! (PS I kind of like that cuff – you should totally wear it!)

    • WHERE though Hugzilla? Do invite me to such a swanky event and I shall wear it. Now onto your 17 pairs of jeans…

  • I wish resort wear looked good on me haha. Tends to look like I’m wearing a potato sack.

  • Oh my goodness, this is me to a tee, hanging on to things for the wannabe me. We are in desperate need of a de-clutter, but Dave and I are the kind of people who get really motivated to do something, spend a day doing it and then the motivation is gone and we’ve only gotten rid of a handful of stuff. We want to switch all of the rooms around in our house so that we can convert the spare bedroom back in to an office for me, but the thought of sorting through all our crap gives me the heebie-jeebies. So while I pin all the office inspiration I can find, nothing actually ever happens. Maybe I need to do this course you speak of!

  • Having moved 23 times, I like to think each move helps with the clutter but since having kids, I think the constant moving has turned our three girls into hoarders. It’s like the more we move, the more they need to hold onto things. We will be down sizing when we move, hopefully for the last time, at the end of the year. Hopefully into a newly built home. I’m wanting to start off on the right foot and not take so much ‘stuff’ with us. I may need to look at the 12 week course you are doing and turn it into a bit of a family challenge because we are back to having so much stuff.

  • I just finished playing the Minimalism Game in February and got rid of hundreds of items. It was so liberating! I’ve still got a way to go in the un-hoarding department! If I narrowed my clothes down to the things that actually fit, I’d totes have a micro capsule wardrobe!

  • I don’t have room in my house to hold onto anything much, but prior to this house I was a hoarder extraordinaire! I had stuff for every occasion and then some.

    • Sames. But it feels good to let it go. They say if it costs less than $20 and you can replace it in 20 minutes then you don’t need it!

  • I’m pretty good at cleansing to be honest. Then I look back and think “I wish I’d kept that!” My husband on the other hand is a total hoarder and is always holding onto old tees etc from his “wannabe self”. Love that term! I’m going to use it with him to see if that snaps him out of his hoarding ways,

  • I know I’m a hoarder — not sure if I buy things that are not me but I do have clothes that are either too big or too small for that moment when I either gain or lose weight! I did cull a lot of stuff when I moved but it’s hard to get rid of everything.